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“A family wants to adopt my baby: what do I do?”

“A family wants to adopt my baby: what do I do?”

If a family is wanting to adopt your baby, the most important thing you can do for your own wellbeing and the wellbeing of your baby is to begin working with a pregnancy counselor. A pregnancy counselor is focused on what it is YOU want before thinking about anyone else’s wants. A pregnancy counselor knows that this is your baby and your choice to make. A pregnancy counselor wants to take your needs and desires into account first. A pregnancy counselor may first ask if you even want to consider adoption and if that is something you feel would be of benefit for your baby.  

If you are considering adoption for your baby, a pregnancy counselor will first help you determine what your dream is for your baby. Do you desire a family who has children already? Do you desire frequent communication with the adoptive family or more limited contact? Once your desires are made clearly known, your pregnancy counselor can show you profiles of families who match your desires for you to consider. Any family being shown to you by a pregnancy counselor has been thoroughly assessed so you can be assured they are stable, equipped, and have passed multiple background checks. If you feel confident one of the families shown to you would meet the needs of your baby and your correspondence desires, you can match with them as your baby’s adoptive parents.  

While families may mean well by approaching you to ask to adopt your baby, there is a great deal of pressure that comes with this request. A pregnancy counselor exists to be your advocate and to consider your needs and your baby’s needs, and never pressures you to place your baby for adoption. Families approaching you asking to adopt your baby may put pressure on getting an answer as soon as possible with your response. A pregnancy counselor wants to go at your pace and won’t pressure you to make quick decisions regarding a life-long decision for your baby. Working with a pregnancy counselor is a free service available for you and allows you to walk with someone in your corner throughout your pregnancy.  

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